August 19, 2005
A neo-feminist's view of abstinence...
This opinion posted on Yahoo! News pretty much sums up neo-feminisim. I'm not going to argue with this woman because I'm a dirty male, and so my point won't be valid anyway. HOWEVER, I will make my point... Women who respect themselves don't have to go to such extremes of thought in order to maintain their "temple". Shutting out men in social situations (at bars, clubs, the park, that sort of thing) will only make it easier to maintain a 32 year old unmarried perspective on life. I'll admit, the majority of people who go out to a bar or club are on the prowl. Since there are plenty of people in the same mode in these social situations it stands to reason there will be a generality in statements made to describe just about any man who approaches a woman at a club. The thing about it, though, is that not every man is a dirty predator looking for a "wham, bam, thank you ma'am" whirlwind night of hunk-a-hunk-a-burnin' love. If you respect yourself enough as a woman then you should have enough self control to be able to deny someone who is moving into bed faster than you're comfortable with. Maintaining the standpoint that all men in social situations are looking for their next conquest pretty much culls every man out of the possible gene pool for you simply because they're men. After that, you might as well just not go out at all. It is true about 50% of marriages fail after the honeymoon is over and the couple finds out it was just lust. Respecting one's self also means being able to admit you've made a mistake and not regretting it for the rest of your life. We're human, and all things should be taken in moderation, right? Respect yourself, but don't forsake the posibility that your soul mate might also like to go to a club with good music and a few drinks, just like you. Otherwise you might as well not go at all.